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Raising Wild and Free Children

5/17/2020

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Raising Wild and Free Children
Who else had an awesome childhood?

I feel extremely lucky to have grown up the way I did.  Not only did we live out in the middle of no where, but so did my grandparents, my aunt and uncle, and my cousins.  My grandparents own a farm, which proved to be an excellent place to play. 

My cousins, little brother, and I spent every summer at the farm.  The farmhouse itself is amazing.  It was built well over 100 years ago and has so many stories to tell.  Upstairs are the bedrooms, one of which was the bedroom of my mom, and another the room where my grandfather (her father) was born.  Tucked away in a drawer is an old box that is the home to my great-grandma's long and beautiful brown curls from her first haircut.  There are the dog-tags from my grandpa's brother who died when he was just 20 years old.  


When he died, the funeral was held in that house.  There are photographs of my family throughout the years, generations of people before me who probably never thought they'd have a granddaughter so interested in them.  But here I am, peering into their smiling faces, wishing I could talk to them and ask them about their stories, the farm, their journeys, and life.  ​

When we weren't exploring the nooks and crannies of the upstairs, we were playing "Amish" outside, dressing up and living like we were Laura Ingalls.  The old milk house served as a wonderful home for my cousins and me as we served up lunch using sand in old salt shakers and milkweed flowers as tacos.  Above the milk house is a grain storage area which we turned into our loft, creating a bed out of gunny sacks filled with hay and a patchwork quilt covering it.  Of course it wouldn't be complete without a kerosene lantern as well.  

In the winter we found joy playing on the round bales.  The cracks between the bales made excellent little "houses", and together with my cousins and brother (and the dogs), we spent hours playing on those bales.  

Above the barn is the haymow where games of basketball were played with the whole family.  After Easter, the family would go for a long walk or go up to the haymow to play a game of P-I-G.  It's kind of magical up there with the hay and light coming in through the barn boards.  

And best of all is the grandparents who live there, still today, who always went the extra mile to help us bring our imagination to life.  Whether it was my grandma sewing me a bonnet made out of scraps from a dress and a cereal box, or grandpa pounding in poles in the ground so I could have my own clothesline in front of our milk house home while he shook his head at my attempt to make wooden shoes (not Amish, I know...but apparently I also wanted to be Dutch :P), my grandparents (and parents) are amazing at boosting creativity in children.  They let us be wild and free.  They let us play.  And because of that we grew into creative adults who look back with love on our childhood.  In fact, my brother and I still go back home every weekend to be with our parents because our home is where we had so many of our happiest memories.

When I think about the childhood I want for my three kiddos, I want it to be like mine.  I want them to run barefoot through the yard and come in at the end of the day dirty and tired from playing.  I want their imagination to fill their time, not devices and television.  I want them to live, and to enjoy living, without the leash social media and technology can sometimes bring.  

So when it comes to raising wild and free kids, here are my strategies and ideas:
  • Let them be bored.  Too often we look to fill all of the time for our children with structured activities.  While structure and routine is important for littles, it is also important for kids to have time to just be bored.  Too much structure can stifle creativity and push kids to become dependent on others or on things for entertainment and enjoyment.  Boredom is their opportunity for building their imagination (and freeing themselves from needing others to make them happy or busy)!  Eventually, they're going to find something to do.  Very rarely will you see a kid just sit on the couch for an hour because they really can't think of anything.  Let them be bored, and over time, their imagination will be so large that they won't have boredom much anymore.
  • Send them outside.  There is so much to see and do outside.  Think of all of the magic that nature provides!  There are trees that can be turned into forts, plants that can be imagined as foods, and grass that can be ran on with bare feet.  There are worms to be investigated and birds to observe.  It truly is an amazing world!  Encourage children to get out into nature and try to notice these things and to see the potential in the world around them.  
  • Encourage their creativity.  After your child has had some time on their own, ask them about what they did.  When your son or daughter comes up to you and shares a creative game that they came up with, listen with interest to them.  If they ask you to play in one of their games and you have the time to do so,  say yes.  Tell them how proud you are of the way that they came up with games to play on their own and of the games they came up with.  Encourage them to share their imagination with you.  You'll be amazed at all of the wonderful ideas going on in their heads!
  • Model it yourself.  If you're going to talk the talk, then you have to walk the walk.  If you tell your kids they can't be on their phone because it stifles creativity and then you spend your time on your phone, be ready for kids to balk at you.  Kids are watching all of the time.  This really was something that was hard for me for a long time.  I noticed that for me, television and Facebook were really addictive, and instead of enjoying time with my children, I was distracting myself with those items instead.  Other people are able to manage it better than me, but in order for me to set the example I wanted to for my children, I had to get rid of our television and deactivate my personal Facebook account.  I really didn't want my kids seeing me relying on those things to give me enjoyment or happiness.  It still takes a conscious effort to do so now, especially because technology is such a huge part of our everyday lives.  But as long as effort is put into whatever it is you're trying to do for your children, then you really are doing the best you can!

What are your tips for raising wild and free children?  What was your childhood like?  I'd love to hear about it :)

Until next time,
Sadie
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Melissa
5/17/2020 04:31:50 pm

I loved reading this as it brought back lots of memories. We used to play in the small creek that ran behind our parents house and my sister and I built a fort there. I remember I buried a time capsule there but it later dug up after a few months, I couldn't wait 5 or 10 years. Going back behind our parents house and searching along what was once a beaver dam and finding shells and hearing stories of how my mom and siblings used to swim there as kids and seeing the dock there as well. I loved the spring when we would find the tad poles in the pollywog pond. We had lots of adventures back there while picking wild raspberries and blueberries. I never would have thought that the dandelions we used to make "salads" back then were actually edible. But I wish I would have told our kids to go out and explore more and not worried so much about what could have happened.

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Sadie
5/17/2020 04:50:27 pm

I love hearing your stories, Melissa! Thank you for sharing them :) I didn't know all of that about the beaver pond and the dock. Very neat!

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Janine
5/27/2020 12:17:43 pm

I played with your mom in that same haymow you did! :) I must say, we stayed children way longer in those days than they do today.

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Sadie
10/23/2020 10:28:04 pm

I think this is pretty neat, Janine! You're right, kids today do grow up a lot faster...

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